I dont believe there is an exact way for kids to be parented. I do believe though that there are different things that should go into parenting, love, care, enjoyment, happiness, education, and any more. I know when i have kids i will probably follow the way my parents raised me. what i love about how i was raised was that it was in a pretty tight family, its big, but we are all close. My mom has 9 brothers and sisters , and i was raised around most of them , making us all have different but strong bonds. Also the fact my mom raised me as thinking of her as a best friend has been the best thing she could have done. It has given me support,love , and encourgement (also basics to parenting i believe)
If i was in that position , i cant say i will follow a certain routine. I dont have this certain idea and am stuck with it, i guess i would be open to different ideas. One thing i do know is that i have this idea of what is wrong and right. Whne it comes to children, i would teach them to respect and be respected, to be unselfish, to be able to help others and think about others needs , as well as their own. I would want my kids to be happy , to be intelligent , and to know how to love and recieve love.
Its hard when we think about it. So may ideas so many options which one should we follow. Should we allow kids to be independent and get their way or should we out restrictions. Speaking formyself i dont believe kids should have there way 100 percent, they shouldnt be spoiled.They need to know the valause of some things, they need to know what it means to have something. Sure we can please them a little but honestly, i dont want my kids to end up being brats. i will teach my kids how to be humble and sweet and most importantly thankful.
With all that being said i do believe that parenting will come naturally, as it did with my mom whom i belive has done a great job. Parenting isnt a subject we need to learn and study for, its something we should love doing , enjoy doing and do it not always based on what a book says.
I read ¨When Parenting Theories Backfire¨ first off this article was very funny. Not only were the outcomes of following the technique funny, but so was the idea that someone would actually think something like this would work or be useful. First i would just like to say that i dont understand why many people think that when it comes to things such as parenting, which i know would be stressful, intimidating, and seem so hard , they believe that following what a book says will be the right way to go. Parenting as i said before should come naturally because you should do what you think is right, and have seen it as being right, based on the way you were raised and etc.
The ideas behind this technique is giving kids option, now im not saying you shouldnt give kids options, but really now? what in the world will choosing a yellow cup over a red one do to a 2 year old??? i find that hilarious actually. With that being said , i would think that parents would realize that this technique would be a recipe for disaster. Honestly yes kids are smart and comeone when given the option of two choices they will definetly go for the third unspoken of choice, the third choice you ha dno intention of bringing in and gives them the authroity you think you are fooling them into having.
i dont believe that is is neccesary to put yourself and your child in this kind of situation. Why not speak to your child from a young age, explain to them why you are choosing something for them based on the circumstances you are i, if they ask for a certain , specific thing give it to them if availabe, simple as that, why must we go into this whole¨parenting must be this way¨ scenerio?
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